Friday, 5 December 2025

The future of our nation

I have been thinking about writing this post for days now. The main reason is that, so often recently, I have got into conversations with people about politics. Perhaps it is because I am autistic, but sometimes I fail to get my arguments out in time in face-to-face conversations or, when I do, the point comes out in a way that is unintentionally harsh or insulting to those I disagree with, because I don’t have time to translate my thoughts into socially acceptable language. (Yes, this does sometimes take time because the autistic mind often comes to the answer long before it remembers the social scripts that are often so natural for the neurotypical community.)

I am genuinely afraid of the world we now live in. It seems more and more unpleasant, almost by the day. It also seems that we are becoming more and more divided. I believe that there is a very high probability that our next government, after the next general election, will be led by Reform. At least, I believe that this will be so unless those who would oppose Reform can come up with a robust alternative to what people perceive the Reform party to offer.

In 2016, the United Kingdom voted in a referendum to decide whether the United Kingdom would leave the European Union. I was passionately against leaving the European Union and still am. It seemed to me that the main reason people voted for Brexit was to regain control of our borders. Those who voted for Brexit believed that being part of the European Union prevented us from being able to take control of our borders effectively in order to reduce or prevent the immigration that, as they saw it, was causing so many problems in our country. In other words, our country was, and is, as they argue on its knees and we need strong and effective government to reduce or end immigration, dealing effectively with those who are causing the problems we are all having to live with. We are effectively pinned down by unsustainable amounts of immigration. Nine years later, we are no better off in terms of immigration. If anything, it has increased. And so many people are suffering as a result of our leaving the European Union. However, they will argue that it is not Brexit that has caused us these problems: it is the immigration that our governments have been unable to control. We need, as they argue, to take back control and deal with those people who come into our country: if we get rid of them, we will be able to make our country great again.

As a linguist, who went to University at 18 to study French, German, and Italian in my first year at Lancaster University, I had to study history and literature in those languages. I remember studying a play called Furcht und Elend des dritten Reiches [roughly translated as Fear and Misery of the Third Reich]. It was largely, as I remember, about life in Germany during the rise of Hitler. One of the things that I took away from that and from my other study of the inter-war period and the Second World War, is that Hitler didn’t rise to power because Germans were evil or racist: Hitler came to power because he knew how to say the right things to the right people at the right time.

Not only this, the Nazi party created a culture of fear and intimidation: those who opposed it were scared and/or intimidated into accepting Nazism. Germans were told to work together for the Vaterland, and convinced that the only party working for the good of the Vaterland was the Nazi party, and only their policies would save Germany from the situation it had found itself in between the two world wars. The enemies were the Jews, gypsies, gay people, disabled people, political opponents: they were the people who were keeping the German nation on its knees. In order to show love and devotion to the Vaterland, one had to unite under the Nazi flag and deal with the problem. If you weren’t prepared to unite under the flag, and against the nation’s enemies, you were part of the problem.

Are you seeing the link? Are you seeing why I am so afraid of the world we now live in?

I am told that I cannot and should not compare Reform to the Nazi party of Germany in the 1930s. The two are completely different times and sets of circumstances. Perhaps I am somehow ignorant or unable to understand, but the two situations look alarmingly similar to me.

In a village not too far from where I live now, local residents have been putting up St George’s flags. I know that it is part of a wider movement to celebrate our identity as English people and we are encouraged to take pride in our national flag and unite in celebrating who we are, and working together to rebuild our nation. Ok, that is different to what was happening in Nazi Germany. I admit. (Oh wait!) Those who give of their time are called “patriots”: working together for the good of our nation. Some people have taken down some of the flags and those people have been labelled “traitors”. No, still not like Nazi Germany in the 1930s.

For me, the European Union grew out of the Second World War when Europe said “Never again!” to fascism. The most effective way of preventing leaders like Hitler rising again was to unite and work together to build a Europe-wide community, in which we all worked together. And, as a linguist, who speaks a lot of European languages, it was amazing to be able to travel so easily within the European Union and buy books from other European countries. One of the countries that I was able to buy books from before Brexit now no longer ships to the United Kingdom.

If you’re still reading, well done, and thank you. I am coming nearer to the end.

Of course, if I make these comparisons, people get very angry. How dare I compared the United Kingdom in the 2020s to Nazi Germany in the 1930s?!

This week, there has been lots of coverage about Nigel Farage making anti-semitic and other racist comments to other children when he was a teenager. One of which, if I remember correctly, was saying to a Jewish child that Hitler was right, making noises resembling the hissing of gas being released. When confronted, Nigel Farage claimed that those comments were not meant in a bad or insulting way. What other way could such comments be interpreted? “Hitler was right to get rid of all your relatives whose lives were taken by the Nazi regime in the Second World War. But you are ok.” You see, it just doesn’t work. He also accused the BBC of making racist and homophobic programmes in the 70s and 80s. However, most of them, or at least the ones I remember actually take the mickey out of the people portrayed as racist or bigots. And so Nigel Farage’s reply is completely unsatisfactory. If he really does not hold those opinions, it would be easy for him to say “Yes, I said things as a teenager that I now regret. I repudiate those sentiments now. I apologise to anybody I hurt at that time.” But that is not what he said. He, like so many of his supporters, simply get upset about being called racist. For those people who, like me, are afraid of Reform and their intentions, we don’t need to be called “snowflakes” or “Lefties” or “traitors”: we simply need to be persuaded that those views are not part of what Reform stand for. I am not yet persuaded. I just see the parallels and the dangers. Am I the only one?

I forget which one it was, but I saw a clip of a Reform member on television stating that Reform would detain people who arrive in this country and then deport them if they do not have a valid claim for asylum. Where might these people all be detained? Our prisons are full, hotels are not really a suitable solution, so what would be? Perhaps the best option might be to build camps in which we can hold immigrants while the government assess their right to be in this country. Our economy cannot support providing them with an even minimal income to live on in this country. And so I wonder whether the best strategy would be for camps to be built to house immigrants, where they will be kept on a sort of bare minimum to keep them going while their claims are assessed.

Do you see my problem with this? Where has this happened before? I wonder. (*cough* Nazi Germany *cough*)

Now, as far as I am aware, Reform has not suggested a policy of building prisons, or camps, that could hold immigrants when they arrive. However, it isn’t a completely unreasonable thing to think about, if our prisons are already overfilled, and hotels too expensive an option. However, if this starts to be an option, we are in danger of becoming like the German people of the 1930s. We need a place to house and control the people who are the largest problem that our country faces.

Do you see why this is an issue?

Also, the St George’s flag: the English flag. We need to unite under the English flag and protect our English identity, language and culture. From what point in history do we trace this sense of identity, language, and culture? Is it before the invasion of the Celts, the Romans, the Angles, the Saxons, the Vikings, or the Normans? All of these groups were foreigners at one point in our history, and we tried to fight many of them off, or get rid of them. Didn’t we? Have I got that wrong?

I was born and raised in England and have lived here all of my life apart from two short periods of living in Africa, but where do I fit into all of this? I am a Celt. One of my grandmothers was born in Wales and moved to England during her childhood. My other grandmother, I have recently discovered, definitely came from a Welsh family. One of my grandfathers, from whom I get my surname was from Birkenhead, but I think we can be fairly sure that he was part of the migration from Ireland, most likely during the famine. Yes, my grandfather’s family were, more than likely, immigrants. As were my grandmother’s families.

But Matthew, we don’t have any issue with immigrants from Ireland or Wales.

Tell that to the Irish immigrants who were not allowed jobs because “No Irish” was place on a notice on the door. Or even if they were able to find work, were mocked mercilessly and made the butt of 1,001 “Paddy and Murphy” jokes. Or the Welsh, equally mocked and called “sheep shaggers”—no I won’t apologise for the profanity—or the butt of “Taffy” jokes. The same can be said for Scottish people too. (But I don’t have any Scottish blood, as far as I know, although “McMurray” could also be Scottish.)

But Matthew, they are just jokes! Have a sense of humour! I didn’t mean any offence, and I didn’t say it with any intent to hurt or upset.

Oh shit! Where have I heard that recently?

Those jokes are very funny, when I think about it.

Well, they’re funny if you’re English. We don’t tell a lot of jokes taking the mickey out of English people though, now I am thinking about it. If you are part of a group that is constantly the target of jokes, you are not really accepted.

And what of the language and culture? Does Reform and its supporters also stand for and want to protect and celebrate the cultures and language of the Celtic Nations? (Wales, Cornwall, Scotland, the Isle of Man, Ireland) I now speak Irish, Scottish Gaelic, Welsh, and Cornish.

But Matthew, these are all part of our nation and the English support them.

What about the Welsh Not? The fox’s head in Scotland? What about all those children who were punished for speaking their mother tongues? What about all those children who had their mother tongues and their cultures quite literally beaten out of them.

But Matthew, that was all a long time ago. We have moved on from that.

“One in three children in Glasgow do not speak English as their first language.” Where did that come from? It doesn’t mean that one in three children do not speak English. Is he counting children who speak Gàidhlig as their first language? After all, 10% of the whole population of Gàidhlig speakers are found in Glasgow. Is speaking English as a first language the hallmark of truly belonging to our nation? What about those born in Welsh-speaking communities or Gàidhlig-speaking communities? Or Cornish-speaking communities? Yes, there are children now in Cornwall who are raised with Cornish as their first language!

Perhaps I am being unfair. Perhaps Reform and their supporters are fully embracing of the communities within the United Kingdom who speak another language as their first language. I suppose it would only be fair to mention that some of those languages are older than the version of English that we speak today. Far be it from me to be facetious, but couldn’t those communities say that English is the language of immigrants?

And Cornish has just been given the same status as Welsh, Irish, and Scottish Gaelic. Is Reform committed to supporting the language and culture of Cornwall?

And so I need a lot of convincing that Reform is the answer to our nation’s problems. The parallels with periods of history that should never be forgotten, and never repeated, are too frightening. I need a lot of reassurance. As a Celt, I find it difficult to stand under the flag of St George with my ancestry, even though I was born and raised in England, not because I don’t love England and being English (by birth and upbringing). I am certainly no traitor but I have too many questions.

And yes, I am afraid. Very afraid. 

Monday, 13 January 2025

On minorities

 As many people who know me well know, I am about to have a diagnostic assessment for autism and ADHD. The idea of autism is not a new one to me although I spent a good many years saying to people that I am “almost autistic” or “have some autistic traits”. ADHD was a new one to me.

This really happened when I was taken by the police to Accident and Emergency for my own protection when, after a Facebook post (which I then deleted), a friend called the police. They were not happy to leave me on my own and so they took me to hospital. In the morning, I was met by a member of the mental health team who, during the course of our conversation, recommended that I was assessed for autism and ADHD. I was a little surprised but thought to myself that he must see this a lot and is qualified and able to recognise the signs.

Since all this has been happening, I have been reading lots and reading of other people’s experiences on various online platforms. These days, they seem full of people who are telling stories of their experiences. And yes, I see so much of myself in many of those stories and so I wouldn’t be surprised to receive both diagnoses.

I also, by sheer chance, ended up at an LGBT night at a pub near to where I live when out with a friend of mine and we saw that it was on and I thought “Why not?” It turned out to be a wonderful night, being with a group of people who were having an evening when they could be fully themselves in a community of people like them.

And so I have been thinking about minorities. If you are interested in statistics, then I have just found the following:

  • ·   3.3% of the UK population identified as gay in 2022 (Office for National Statistics)
  • ·   0.5% of the UK population didn’t identify with the gender they were assigned at birth (2021 census)
  • ·  1.32% of the UK population is said to be autistic (March 2024, NHS)

The proportions are very small, even if a brief search online might lead one to think the figures were much higher.

I choose these three groups because they are all groups that are minorities who have all become more vocal in recent years. That, or we have simply become more aware of them.

What I have come to realise is that I have been aware of other minorities, without necessarily thinking that I belonged to one. Or perhaps I didn’t want to believe that I belonged to one? But I no longer have that choice. If I am to grow to understand myself better and be the fullest version of myself then I have to face what is quite likely this truth about me.

The conclusion that I have come to, from listening to other people’s stories, is that it is IMPOSSIBLE to know what life is like for any minority if you are not part of it. I will restate this using my own case: IT IS IMPOSSIBLE TO KNOW WHAT LIFE IS LIKE FOR A PERSON WITH AUTISM IF YOU ARE NOT AUTISTIC! There are many people who may be “experts” in autism, or work with autistic children in schools, or work to support autistic people in life but unless they have autism, they cannot truly and fully know what the experience is like any more than I can understand what it is like to be gay or transgender. The best they can do in, say, an educational setting is to learn strategies to help autistic people cope in an educational setting or perhaps develop the experience and ability to understand how certain situations will play out and how to stop things from escalating into “problems”. But I would argue that it is still true to say that they can only see something like autism as a problem or a condition to be managed, with strategies in place to help autistic people to cope or even thrive in the normal world.

In the same way, no matter how sympathetic or empathetic I may want to be with gay or transgender people, I will never be able fully to enter into their experiences. The only way I have a chance to improve my understanding is to listen to their stories, and to stop trying to see their experiences through my own eyes. That will never work. I have to listen, preferably without speaking. Otherwise, all any of us do is try to look at their worlds through our own eyes, even though we don’t have the lenses of their experiences.

And I suppose that, somewhat crucially, we have to stop saying that our experiences—if not in any of the minorities I have mentioned—are or should be normative. The struggles I have with the world are sometimes exhausting, and the more I TRY to be normal, the more exhausted I will become. This is what has happened this year. I am utterly exhausted and need to completely reassess my life.

Assuming that I will be diagnosed and that I am not imagining the things that I have struggled with, I will no longer allow anybody to say to me that I have to live my life a certain way. I no longer have the energy to do that. I will and MUST be the fullest and truest version of myself.

I suppose that what I have learnt recently, amongst many other things, is that what is true of me is bound to be true of other minorities, no matter what minorities they might be. When a person is not allowed to be truly and fully what they are, that person is reduced and the result can only be that those people become a shadow of themselves.

I suppose that this might be uncomfortable for those of us who do not understand another person’s experience, but I suspect that if we have ever felt that we have not been allowed to be who we truly are, or are tired of pretending, then surely we should extend to others the freedom that we would want for ourselves?